Pondering on your current issue, Angela, some wise words of T.S. Eliot came to mind. “Humankind cannot bear very much reality.”
Just look at us trying to cope with reality. We pep ourselves with coffee, tea, coke, cigarettes, vitamins, chocolates, candies, snacks, issues-of-others, encouraging quotes and even with Bible scriptures. At the end of a day, sometimes before or after the end, we fall into escape-mode and drug ourselves with TV programs, Internet sites, cell-phone-applications, books, music, obsessive-compulsive doings, tranquillizers, alcohol, porn, sex, or, if we are lucky, true love
and spiritual activities.
Angela, do you think this is reality? Let me quote the social psychologist, David G. Myers: “There is an objective reality out there, but we view it through the spectacles of our beliefs, attitudes, and values.”
Alan Hale confirmed: “Reality is determined not by what scientists or anyone else says or believes, but by what the evidence reveals to us.”
Your current issue: Martin’s way of coping with reality and, of course, your response -
Let me quote Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, and please, regard his words as a warning in disguise: “Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the real and the ideal never goes unpunished.”
Just to make you smile, some quotes of the American actress/comedian Lily Tomlin:
“Reality is the leading cause of stress amongst those in touch with it.”
“Reality is a crutch for people who can’t cope with drugs.”
“Reality is an illusion that occurs due to lack of alcohol.”
Now, Angie, let’s get serious again: God wants us to be happy - Eccl. 2:24; 3:12-13,22; 5:18-19; 9:9; 1 Pet. 3:10; 3 John. 2. At the same time He wants us to be holy - 2 Cor. 7:1; Eph. 1:3-4; Heb. 12:10; 1 Pet. 1:15,16; 1 Pet. 2:5,9; 2 Pet. 3:11.
My favorite, John 10:10: “I came that you may have and enjoy life and have it in abundance, until it overflows.”
So honey, if you are unhappily married, you are not doing God’s will. But then, divorce is also not God's will - (Matthew 5:32). This means you are indeed between the devil and the deep blue sea. You have to decide what will of God you are going to follow.
Perhaps it is easier to simply face reality and tackle the challenges it has in stock for you.